Best Friday

Anniversary plans always go a little wrong on TV shows.
Fred buys Wilma a piano for their anniversary and it turns out to be stolen. Ricky gets a female friend to hold Lucy’s anniversary pearls and Lucy thinks they are having an affair.
And so how it goes in real life sometimes: Tony plans a private afternoon in the mountains with the Attorney and he keeps getting cock-blocked by circumstance.
Even though it bounces around from year to year, I look at Good Friday as sort of an anniversary for me and the Attorney because we first met on Good Friday in 2005. It was a year and a half before we met for the second time, but I had a good feeling about him (but was afraid to act on it) from the start. So, as far as I’m concerned that Good Friday was really the Best Friday.
In honor of that Good Friday (which was also in March that year, so I’m close) and taking advantage of a day when we were both off work, I made plans for us to hop in his convertible, drive to a secluded mountain spot, and have a nice little picnic.
First wrench in the plans: The NCAA Basketball tournament schedule is announced and Tennessee is playing at 12:15pm. Right in the middle of our trip. I didn’t know what to do. Anniversaries come every year. But Tennessee’s men’s team making the tournaments (and with a high seed) don’t.
I didn’t want to cut the day short and be home by noon to see the game. I didn’t want to wait until after the game to start the day. And I didn’t want to cancel my plans. The Attorney kept a cool head said we could take a radio along and enjoy the game while we enjoy our lunch.
So, we met Friday morning and headed off to a secret place I know. The top was down, the lunch was packed, and a portable radio was on the tiny back seat. Everything was perfect.
Perfect until I found out that the road to my secret place has been blocked off since I was there last.
No big deal. I knew another secret spot. Unfortunately it turned out to be a spot that, judging by the 3-4 families there ahead of us, was not so secret anymore.
I knew of other places, but there was no way we would get there in his sports car. I realized we should have taken my truck. Not as sexy and romantic, but would have gotten us away from the rest of the world. Finally I did figure out a place where we could securely park his car and walk a bit further.
And so we did.
We found a little clearing by a creek bed and set up our day camp. Blankets. Food. Cooler. Radio. And us. What more could we need?
Radio reception.
After attempting a walk through the creek (the water was waaaaaaaay too cold still) we decided to dial in the pre-game. But we couldn’t get a strong enough signal. At least not from the station we needed.
Neither one of us was going to be able to stand not knowing how the game was going. I’ll say it once and I’ll say it again: Anniversaries come every year. But Tennessee’s men’s team making the tournaments (and with a high seed) don’t.
So, on to plan “C” (or is it really like “E” or “F” at this point?)
We didn’t want to lose more time hunting for a spot that got reception . It was too close to tip-off (game start time for you non-ballers) to drive home and watch it on TV. Once again, the attorney came through. His suggestion: hit the interstate and find the closest motel with cable TV.
And so we did. (Not the closest motel. Not sure we would have come out of it alive, whether it be because of a slasher or some flesh-eating bacteria that was no doubt being bred there.)
I can only imagine what we must have looked like: An older man and a slightly younger man in a ridiculously expensive convertible checking into a motel in the middle of the day with no luggage. But the clerk didn’t seem to take notice or have a problem. Nor when we checked out about four and a half hours later.
We sat on the bed, eating our Italian sandwiches (ham, prosciutto, salami, pepperoni, provolone) and pound cake (home made) watching the Vols win a poorly played game. A little making out during halftime, a little more and a nap and shower after.
That was our hot piano. Our secret pearls. Our Good Friday.
Maybe not the best Good Friday. But a good one nonetheless.
That Good Friday of 2005 will probably always be the best, because with out it, there would not have been so many good ones to follow.
March 22nd, 2008 at 2:42 pm
Sounds like an awesome time regardless. Sports, man sex, fatty meats and the guy you, ahem, love. A Best Friday indeed.
March 22nd, 2008 at 4:25 pm
Thanks for letting us peek through the blinds for a glimpse of another sweet chapter in your evolving love story!
March 22nd, 2008 at 5:06 pm
I never understand the need to see sports that bad, but what is really cool about this story is that you both wanted to do it together. You have a common interest and it seems like your day, no matter where it was, was great because you two spent it together.
Very nice!
March 22nd, 2008 at 5:20 pm
I understand, if it were Carolina or Duke I would be the same, sounds like you two had a great time nonetheless.
Way cool.
March 22nd, 2008 at 6:28 pm
‘That was our hot piano. Our secret pearls. Our Good Friday.”
Amazing writing, Tony!
The fact that you could both move on to plan C and D…and so forth, with humour and grace and shared enjoyment, speaks volumes about both of you. Many people in that situation would have been so frustrated and upset, that the day might have been ruined. You kept the puck moving (sorry, only sport metaphor I understand), and ended up with another piano duet … another lustrous pearl … another Good Friday. Happy Anniversay, my friend.
March 22nd, 2008 at 7:24 pm
Actually that sounds like a pretty good way for the two of you to end up spending an anniversary… maybe next year you should just ditch the picnic and find a motel room somewhere
March 23rd, 2008 at 12:34 am
See, those shared experiences are being piled up. Congratulations.
March 23rd, 2008 at 1:43 am
The best part about the entire story: you were together enjoying each other’s company, no matter what happened. Love.
March 23rd, 2008 at 5:17 am
Great story! love the blog,
jay
March 23rd, 2008 at 7:01 am
I get it. The need to see the game thing. I remember the big let down when March was over and there was nothing on TV. That and to be with your man makes life complete, doesn’t it? Add an anniversary to the mix and the skies will be blue forever! That and the Vols won; you guys must have been in heaven. Sorry they didn’t play well, but at least they are still in it. Hooray for flexibility, without it, you would have been lost.
March 23rd, 2008 at 7:40 am
That wasn’t so bad after all. But may I recommend Tivo or a DVR next time?
March 23rd, 2008 at 2:25 pm
Love the opening picture- you in your dashing ascot…
One of my favorite sayins growing up was “The best laid plans of mice and men often go awry”. Some people took this negatively and my ex used to say that I spend too much time thinking about a plan B just in case. I canot count how many times we sequed to plan C without him even realizing it.
You two are becoming hotter than anything on television right now and you could be hotter than cable if you included some pictures
March 24th, 2008 at 7:30 pm
In what world is thirtysomething older?
I’m just starting at forty.
Ah despair.
March 24th, 2008 at 7:53 pm
You have an amazing way with words Tony. To tell this story as beautifully as you have takes something akin to genius. Furthermore you’ve told so many stories beautifully and somtimes with a delicious humor.
I do remember that this is your senior year. I am sad that I may be losing one of my favorite web sites, and I pray to whatever Gods exist that you will continue writing so that we can all continue to experience the beautiful, loving world you so generously share with us.
March 25th, 2008 at 6:57 am
That is the type of anniversary memory you will always remember.
March 25th, 2008 at 9:29 am
that is so sweet.