When I referred to things that I wouldn’t compromise on, two of them have nothing to do with appearance and one does. And the one that does has more to do with not taking care yourself and not staying physically active/fit.

I hear you about blonds. They were never my cup of tea, but dammit if I wouldn’t date one now!

Don’t think I have a list. If so, it’s very minimal. I’ve noticed from my past relationships that none of them looked like what I was looking for. The last guy I dated (who was great btw) was blond; I never really was a blond kinda guy. Looking back though it wasn’t what they looked like, that I liked so much. It was who they were and what they were about. Of course it still takes mutual attraction to bring people together, or else we would never talk to begin with.

He changed my whole outlook on blonds though. My taste in men is forever changing with each one I meat (errr, meet). So I definitely leave my options open.

This has been interesting, Thank you Tony. Sorry my blog is on hiatus right now. I don’t do much of anything during the winter, so really nothing to share that I have done.

@Mikey: I agree. It might be a good idea to look at the list and consider throwing it away but I think there are some things that cannot be compromised and they’re different for each person. I realize that nobody is perfect, especially me!

I Know that at any moment there are, in the midwest, in Sydney, all over, any number of amazing guys looking to fall in love, wanting to fall in love, waiting for You to come along …

But speaking as a full-blown Ninja shop-a-holic … dudes, you don’t go shopping for Prada at Wal-Mart!

Shopping for love? A pool of self-proclaimed ‘fuckbuds’ is probably not your most promising assortment. And the ‘fuckbud’ label on your own forehead? probably not helping …

And what about that Damn Shopping List most of us carry around in our heads?

I know amazing guys who want a bf and true love, but they walk around with a boyfriend checklist in hand … looks, bigdick, body, job, great hair, no-hair, blonde hair, body hair, no body hair, top, bottom, vers, poz, neg, car, hybrid car, black, white, punk, C&W, hates reality TV, loves reality TV, older younger … come on you guys, you know what I’m talking about here. Review your shopping list … and then throw it the fuck away. Think Different, boys.

Go for it all, of course … I think we all should have our tricks and marry them, too. Just open up to the idea that your ideal guy might look utterly unlike your checklist.

And while it’s an idea with true merit (no joke, you’d sure catch guys’ attention) I don’t know that writing “marry me” on your abs is your very best play … (but if you do, please forward the pics to LT so he can post them) … instead, how about just asking a bunch of interesting dudes out on a bunch of dates?

Have some fun with dating, take some chances … laugh at the disasters, run from the crazy ones, cry over the heartbreaks … dating is a bitch, but so is loneliness.

i have to follow the voices of breton and jay. i could have written this and actually started writing a brief like this for valentines day but it just got too complex and upsetting. there are so many out there too scared to try because of what their past experiences were like. but i say carpe diem. or at the very least seize love and life while its still around! you never know when it will be snatched away.

it hurts if you put out a little or a lot.