Comments on: Patience http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/ The Ramblings and 'Ritings of a Big-Dicked Country Boy Thu, 20 Nov 2008 17:18:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: James http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-87136 James Fri, 25 Jan 2008 16:10:31 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-87136 At last you said the B word. I almost screamed with excitmetn when I finaly read that. On the down side I was about to start taking bets on when yoiu were going to say it. Well that's not posible now. Guess I'm going to have to run a book on when you get married instead. Any takers. At last you said the B word. I almost screamed with excitmetn when I finaly read that.

On the down side I was about to start taking bets on when yoiu were going to say it. Well that’s not posible now.
Guess I’m going to have to run a book on when you get married instead.

Any takers.

]]> By: chris http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-87021 chris Thu, 24 Jan 2008 14:38:15 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-87021 awwww! tonys got a boyfriend. tonys got a boyfriend! congratulations sir. :) awwww! tonys got a boyfriend. tonys got a boyfriend! congratulations sir. :)

]]> By: David Arrow http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86818 David Arrow Wed, 23 Jan 2008 03:18:38 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86818 congratulations on your skilled use of the 'B' word. I am so relieved. I have been waiting for a year to hear you use it. Now I can relax congratulations on your skilled use of the ‘B’ word. I am so relieved. I have been waiting for a year to hear you use it. Now I can relax

]]> By: Blobby http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86817 Blobby Wed, 23 Jan 2008 03:04:27 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86817 Oh well, clutch the pearls and get me the smelling salts...........i got the vapors! Oh well, clutch the pearls and get me the smelling salts………..i got the vapors!

]]> By: Alex/California http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86772 Alex/California Tue, 22 Jan 2008 19:04:33 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86772 Congratulations. How does he refer to you? Congratulations. How does he refer to you?

]]> By: Steven http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86765 Steven Tue, 22 Jan 2008 18:07:16 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86765 I just came upon your blog viz aussielicious and I am officially hooked. It's nice to read an eloquent gay blog! Read ya soon! I just came upon your blog viz aussielicious and I am officially hooked. It’s nice to read an eloquent gay blog! Read ya soon!

]]> By: Royster http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86754 Royster Tue, 22 Jan 2008 16:45:52 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86754 This IS great to read. One thing I'd say, though: of course "boyfriend" is a great term if you chose to use it, but what is so clear in both your anniversary reflection and your friend's long-distance relationship, is that you are all acting like MEN, not like boys. It's not wearing the letter sweater in high school, or double-dating to the movies; it's two (or four to use the contrasting case) mature grown-ups, who have found a way to remain individuals and still have a union that suits them. It's remaining strong and independent, but choosing when you need to share some support and co-dependence. And it's the hardest thing in the world, whether you are gay or straight. In some aspects of gay society, there is such a premium on romance, youth, superficiality, and living-for-the-moment that the longer and harder virtues of patience, acceptance of differences even in your peer group, and investment in someone else's soul instead of just their body can go by the wayside. You don't need a marriage license or a single word to describe that other person (boyfriend, partner, spouse, husbear, lover); you just know it's right and will fight to keep it as right as possible. We all aspire to that. Thanks for inspiring us that it's out there and possible, if you're willing to work at it. This IS great to read. One thing I’d say, though: of course “boyfriend” is a great term if you chose to use it, but what is so clear in both your anniversary reflection and your friend’s long-distance relationship, is that you are all acting like MEN, not like boys. It’s not wearing the letter sweater in high school, or double-dating to the movies; it’s two (or four to use the contrasting case) mature grown-ups, who have found a way to remain individuals and still have a union that suits them. It’s remaining strong and independent, but choosing when you need to share some support and co-dependence. And it’s the hardest thing in the world, whether you are gay or straight. In some aspects of gay society, there is such a premium on romance, youth, superficiality, and living-for-the-moment that the longer and harder virtues of patience, acceptance of differences even in your peer group, and investment in someone else’s soul instead of just their body can go by the wayside. You don’t need a marriage license or a single word to describe that other person (boyfriend, partner, spouse, husbear, lover); you just know it’s right and will fight to keep it as right as possible. We all aspire to that. Thanks for inspiring us that it’s out there and possible, if you’re willing to work at it.

]]> By: dAAve http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86723 dAAve Tue, 22 Jan 2008 10:51:57 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86723 Very sweet. I am in a somewhat similar situation as my partner lives 2500 miles away. We get together for 2-8 weeks at a time, several times per year. The break serves us both well. Interesting, to say the least. Thanks for your post. Very sweet.
I am in a somewhat similar situation as my partner lives 2500 miles away. We get together for 2-8 weeks at a time, several times per year. The break serves us both well. Interesting, to say the least. Thanks for your post.

]]> By: Jay http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86683 Jay Tue, 22 Jan 2008 05:06:00 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86683 So, it's official now? 'Bout time. LOL. Good luck, secret taboo boyfriend. :-) So, it’s official now? ‘Bout time. LOL. Good luck, secret taboo boyfriend. :-)

]]> By: Cooper http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86642 Cooper Mon, 21 Jan 2008 22:45:25 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2008/01/21/patience/#comment-86642 I'm so happy for you, Tony. Patience is its own reward, and yours (and his) is creating something very special. Happy First Date Anniversary to you and your boyfriend! I’m so happy for you, Tony. Patience is its own reward, and yours (and his) is creating something very special. Happy First Date Anniversary to you and your boyfriend!

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