Completion
New Year’s Eve is about reflection. Reflection on the year. The time gone by. Auld Lang Syne and all that.
Looking back on all that was 2007…my 2007, anyway…a strong thread through the months and weeks and days was the attorney.
We had our first date in January and within two months time, I let the word “boyfriend” cross my lips. I still have trouble saying that particular word, but I have no doubt he is my friend, my companion, and after last night, my romance.
I went to his house for New Year’s Eve. His friend Jeff came by for a while and we had drinks.
Jeff, who is very funny and someone I like a lot, tried to talk us into going out on the town with him, but the attorney is no more into clubs and the nightlife than I am, so we stayed in. Not Jeff. The attorney and I.
We stayed in and ate turkey sandwiches, kicked back on the sofa like lazy dogs, and like the old ladies Jeff said we were, we played Scrabble.
It’s tough playing a word game with someone with a law degree. I’m sure he knew that because at one point i went to dump all my tiles and he stopped me.
“Come on, there’s got to be something there,” he said, taking my tray.
He used a ‘u’ already on the board (in ‘loud’) to come up with ‘cusec’.
“Yeah. That’ll complete you,” he said.
Now, I don’t know what ‘cusec’ means. He said it was some sort of measurement in science.
Okay. If it gives me points. Cool. Because even with his help, he still kicked my ass.
That’s the thing I really like about the attorney…well, one of the things. Even though he has a definite advantage in a lot of ways, it’s never as if I couldn’t hold my own right next to him. Completing ‘cusec’ wasn’t doing for me, it was showing support by sort of filling a gap.
Completing ‘cusec’ was completing me.
There was a time when I would want to vomit when I heard people say things like that.
“You complete me.”
But, now I understand. I don’t need to go into all the particulars as to how, but we do complete each other. The attorney and I.
Reflecting back on 2007, I realize that we came into each other’s lives at the right time.
This time. We met for the first time in 2005, but it wasn’t time that time.
This time it is.
Like the song says:
Time after time
I’ll tell myself that I’m
So lucky…
Well, you know the rest.
Happy New Year, everyone.
January 2nd, 2008 at 2:10 am
Awww… I wish you and the attorney great happiness in 2008. And Happy New Year to you, too, Tony.
January 2nd, 2008 at 2:27 am
Cusec. Good word.
It makes me very happy that he makes you very happy. I love him for that. You deserve only the best, and I think you may have found it. I wish you all the best and more in the New Year, Tony. All the very best that you so richly deserve. You are loved.
January 2nd, 2008 at 6:13 am
Great stuff Tony. I wish the best for you both.
January 2nd, 2008 at 8:37 am
This is such a sappy love story, but I loved reading every moment of it. I would have personally suggested you dump all of your tiles so I could thump you even harder!
But I am cunty that way. Congrats on finding a great match that compliments you.
January 2nd, 2008 at 9:12 am
I’m happy for both of you. Nice to find someone who completes you. Good friends are that way, boyfriends are hopefully that way. A boyfriend who is a good friend is the best.
Oh yeah I almost forgot Cogratualations on the Vols win yesterday. I would have never watched football until I started reading your blog.
January 2nd, 2008 at 9:36 am
Knowing you and The Attorney are so happy, and that the Vols won yesterday only encourage me that 2008 is going to be a very good year! Congratulations!
January 2nd, 2008 at 11:59 am
So sweet, Tony. A perfect compliment to the New Year. I’m so happy for you … and him.
January 2nd, 2008 at 1:17 pm
Oh, I’d not vomit for you saying that…..I know exactly and precisely how you’re feeling. Perfect. Complete. Happy. And I’m happy for you.
January 2nd, 2008 at 3:54 pm
AWWWWW…
That was an amazingly heartfelt post, completely devoid of saccharine. Thank God. I’m glad that you feel that way and can tell us about it without the usual gushing, which often makes me think that the emotion is forced. Your honest assessment of the situation feels so much more real - best wishes to the both of you as your relationship continues on that path of completeness.
Happy New Year!
January 2nd, 2008 at 5:52 pm
Congrats! All the best to you!
January 2nd, 2008 at 8:52 pm
cu·sec (kysk) n.
A volumetric unit for measuring the flow of liquids, equal to one cubic foot per second.
—–[cu(bic) + sec(ond)1.]
Based on some of your past posts here Tony, I am sure the Attorney is quite familiar with your particular bodily “flow of liquids” so that was quite an apt term he thought of for you in your Scrabble game.
Seriously though, let me add my CONGRATS to everyone else here and wish you and the attorney a VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR (and for the Tennessee Volunteers 21 - 17win over Wisconsin in the Outback Bowl)…
January 2nd, 2008 at 8:56 pm
What an awesome post. Think everyone feels the same about it….even Brett in his own warped cajun way……altho most weren’t thinking in a slutty way. Great New Year’s Eve story….very romantic. Gives hope to all those still single! Thanks!
January 3rd, 2008 at 10:01 am
Yep, I’d say you are officially in love. It just gets better from here on out.
January 3rd, 2008 at 4:07 pm
Finally! You guys have declared a romance! I would have thought it was obvious by now… Gee, men are so slow at these things. Okay, okay. I’m being unfair. I know it is how you feel big guy. Best of luck in the New Year you two. Your kids will be really tall you know. Just warning ya!
January 3rd, 2008 at 5:27 pm
What a truly beautiful post–I am so happy for you and the Attorney, and wish you much joy as your love story continues….
January 4th, 2008 at 9:06 am
i loved especially the part about “2005 versus 2007″…it confirms for me my goal of treating everyone i meet as well as possible, because in two years or twenty i may meet them again and some completion may result. It is SO hard to be vigilantly optimistic and proactive, but the rewards (when they do come, though it seems they never will) can be gratifying. i am glad for you both that you didn’t let the first dating experience preclude the current one. You deserve each other, as the mixture of tiles has created some beautiful words for us all to share.
January 4th, 2008 at 9:27 am
you are so awesome. and beautiful post. plus i love scrabble!
January 4th, 2008 at 10:30 am
i’d like to play Strip Scrabble with Tony and the At-tony. Winner takes all…..
January 4th, 2008 at 10:31 am
um, make that winner takes ball.
January 4th, 2008 at 12:38 pm
What a delightful progression from ‘ keepin’ company’!
January 5th, 2008 at 10:56 pm
Such a wonderfully sweet, sappy story. So unlike you, and me. But I guess we have found guys who complete us