Comments on: I Can’t Believe It’s Not Sex

By: Aaron

Aaron — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 13:27:34 +0000

As in the rest of life, definitions are just labels that eventually fail us. However, within the pursuit of specific goals, labels do have some real value. If your goal is not getting pregnant, then the penetration definition is useful–perhaps even a definition related to cum-wiping. If your goal is the “mutual question for orgasm” as David’s friend suggests then those words themselves serve a good definition, don’t they. And if you get spiritual about it, then when Larget wonders if he has “sex with several guys a day that I don’t even know” I think he might be!

By: Kris

Kris — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 23:36:51 +0000

My definition of sex is any activity that two or more people engage in knowingly and willingly that causes any of them to have an orgasm. The guys who only define penetration as sex just want a rationale that they’re a: not cheating when they are; and b: not engaging in gay sex, when the are.

By: David

David — Thu, 13 Dec 2007 08:45:21 +0000

My friends and I use this definition: “Sex is the mutual quest for orgasm.”

By: duke

duke — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 01:52:27 +0000

Sex is the deliberate stimulation of the genitals regardless of the results or original intent I love it.

By: Timmy

Timmy — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 21:33:42 +0000

If clothing is removed, penises are exposed and an orifice or two is penetrated by an penis, it is sex. And definitely if there is an ejaculation of bodily fluids by one or more participants.

By: jessica

jessica — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 20:01:34 +0000

I’ve never understood the great debate over what the official definition of “sex” is. If it feels good, do it [with a few exceptions, of course].

By: Java

Java — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 18:19:47 +0000

This question intrigues me. I have thought about it a bit recently, but I’d like to further explore the question. I’d like to enjoy exploring the question. I’d like to explore his reaction to … the question? Alright, you have distracted me. How am I supposed to concentrate on my work now?

By: atari_age

atari_age — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 07:17:08 +0000

It’s all sex. Whether it’s *good* sex or sex that you particularly like, is a personal call, but it’s all sex. Where in the world do these other distinctions come from?

I’m betting that those who consider blowjobs, etc, as “not-sex” are doing that based on what seems like a very old tradition: meaning, if I call this “not-sex” then I haven’t violated a religious or social taboo. Hate to break it to them, but if a dick is in someone else’s mouth or someone else’s hand, or a fist is up something, and even if you ultimately don’t squirt at the end, it’s sex.

Or let’s put it this way: if you put what you did on video and it sold as a porn, it was probably sex.

By: lexxicuss

lexxicuss — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 01:23:37 +0000

and if it’s not the end of the debate, you need to have your head examined.

(throat culture… love it!!!!!!)

By: Brenton

Brenton — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 21:37:40 +0000

A friend of mine believes it’s not sex unless there’s a cumshot at the end…
Bizarre. In my humble opinion sex is anything where a hardon is intentionally involved and items of clothing are removed for stimulation.