I Can’t Believe It’s Not Sex
Perhaps the greatest debate in all humanity is the debate over when life begins.
The second greatest is the one over when sex begins.
I was having that debate with a friend the other day. The sex debate. Not the life debate.
He believes that “sex” is defined by penetration with a penis. And by “penetration” he means anal or vaginal. Penetration with a penis in the mouth is not “sex.”
So when does sex begin? Is it the moment the penis enters below the waist? Or maybe it’s the moment of conception (when you conceive of the idea of penetration).
Well, the last can’t be true. If it is then I have sex with several guys a day that I don’t even know.
I find that there’s a lot of people who don’t think of blow jobs as sex. In fact, I think I’m in the minority when I say that I can’t believe it’s not sex.
And what about rimming? Either it’s sex or you are a bidet.
I’m not punching past your tonsils on my way to your esophagus just to keep my dick warm. I’m not in there taking a throat culture. I’m there for sex.
It looks like sex. It smells like sex. And it definitely feels like sex.
At least on my end of the stick.
Give me a few minutes and I bet I can make it feel like sex on your end, too.
That’ll settle that debate.
November 28th, 2007 at 3:29 am
“I’m not punching my way past your tonsils on my way to your esophagus just to keep my dick warm. I’m not in there taking a throat culture.”
Dude that has to be one of the funniest things I have read regarding sex in a while and I agree with you, that is sex.
November 28th, 2007 at 5:20 am
I look at them as “Acts of Sex”. *shrugs*
November 28th, 2007 at 6:41 am
Too damned right!
November 28th, 2007 at 8:59 am
If that’s not sex, I’ll eat my . . .
November 28th, 2007 at 9:27 am
I am attracted to a man with strong hands.
I utilize my hands as sex organs, both on myself and others.
Is shaking hands sex?
November 28th, 2007 at 11:14 am
oh what i wouldnt do to be on the end of your stick.
November 28th, 2007 at 12:14 pm
What about sex with yourself? I think I’ve had it before.
November 28th, 2007 at 12:38 pm
“Give me a few minutes and I bet I can make it feel like sex on your end…” That’s the best offer I’ve had in weeks. How many minutes do you want? Hell I’ll give you hours, days any amount of time you want.
November 28th, 2007 at 5:02 pm
“It’s not sex.” Sounds like what someone says when they want to be able to cheat.
November 28th, 2007 at 5:34 pm
I guess it depends on what your definition of “is” is
Now tell us who the guy with the hairy abs is. Or “is” 
November 28th, 2007 at 8:12 pm
Hell, just thinking about it all is ’sex’. Of course, I probably think about it way too much and way too much detail.
November 28th, 2007 at 10:01 pm
An exposed erect penis. Doesn’t that 8 times out of ten lead to something vaguely resembling sex? I think that it does…
November 28th, 2007 at 10:06 pm
For me, sex begins when I wake up.
November 28th, 2007 at 11:48 pm
This is sounding a lot like… “I’m not gay”
November 29th, 2007 at 4:37 pm
A friend of mine believes it’s not sex unless there’s a cumshot at the end…
Bizarre. In my humble opinion sex is anything where a hardon is intentionally involved and items of clothing are removed for stimulation.
November 29th, 2007 at 8:23 pm
and if it’s not the end of the debate, you need to have your head examined.
(throat culture… love it!!!!!!)
November 30th, 2007 at 2:17 am
It’s all sex. Whether it’s *good* sex or sex that you particularly like, is a personal call, but it’s all sex. Where in the world do these other distinctions come from?
I’m betting that those who consider blowjobs, etc, as “not-sex” are doing that based on what seems like a very old tradition: meaning, if I call this “not-sex” then I haven’t violated a religious or social taboo. Hate to break it to them, but if a dick is in someone else’s mouth or someone else’s hand, or a fist is up something, and even if you ultimately don’t squirt at the end, it’s sex.
Or let’s put it this way: if you put what you did on video and it sold as a porn, it was probably sex.
November 30th, 2007 at 1:19 pm
This question intrigues me. I have thought about it a bit recently, but I’d like to further explore the question. I’d like to enjoy exploring the question. I’d like to explore his reaction to … the question? Alright, you have distracted me. How am I supposed to concentrate on my work now?
November 30th, 2007 at 3:01 pm
I’ve never understood the great debate over what the official definition of “sex” is. If it feels good, do it [with a few exceptions, of course].
November 30th, 2007 at 4:33 pm
If clothing is removed, penises are exposed and an orifice or two is penetrated by an penis, it is sex. And definitely if there is an ejaculation of bodily fluids by one or more participants.
December 1st, 2007 at 8:52 pm
Sex is the deliberate stimulation of the genitals regardless of the results or original intent I love it.
December 13th, 2007 at 3:45 am
My friends and I use this definition: “Sex is the mutual quest for orgasm.”
January 26th, 2008 at 6:36 pm
My definition of sex is any activity that two or more people engage in knowingly and willingly that causes any of them to have an orgasm. The guys who only define penetration as sex just want a rationale that they’re a: not cheating when they are; and b: not engaging in gay sex, when the are.
April 13th, 2008 at 9:27 am
As in the rest of life, definitions are just labels that eventually fail us. However, within the pursuit of specific goals, labels do have some real value. If your goal is not getting pregnant, then the penetration definition is useful–perhaps even a definition related to cum-wiping. If your goal is the “mutual question for orgasm” as David’s friend suggests then those words themselves serve a good definition, don’t they. And if you get spiritual about it, then when Larget wonders if he has “sex with several guys a day that I don’t even know” I think he might be!