Are You Sexy or Just Happy To See Me?
Are men with big cocks better and sexier than men who are average or smaller? I guess it depends on who you ask. Ask me, and I’ll say no. Ask a power bottom and the answer may be different.
It’s all a matter of opinion. Purely subjective. The only thing that a guy who’s packing a pound puppy in his britches can say for certain is that it is bigger. Not better. Not sexier. Just bigger. Because that’s not opinion. That’s fact. A fact that can be proven (or dis-proven) with a few strokes and a tape measure.
See, here’s the thing about being sexy. No one feels sexy 100% of the time. You feel sexy when you are feeling special in some way you don’t normally. Maybe you’re wearing something you look particularly good in. Maybe you’re in better shape than you have been. Maybe that mysterious rash has cleared up. The point is you’re feeling sexy because something is different from the way it is every other day.
But that something is not your cock. Your cock is the same as it was yesterday.
Unless you’re John Wayne Bobbitt. But then I don’t think sexy was what he was feeling at the time. I mean, if your cock is what makes you sexy, then when he had his reconstruction surgery, it would have been him and not Justin Timberlake singing “Sexy Back.”
Now, this is not to say that guys (and gals) don’t like guys who have big dicks. You do. You know you do. And any of you who say that penis size doesn’t matter is a liar.
Hear me out on this one. All things being equal (looks, personality, physique, wealth, etc.) if you were forced to pick between two guys, you’d pick the one with the bigger dick. You may not be a size queen, but when faced with a healthy crotch monkey (or gorilla, as the case may be), you’re not likely to turn it down. If for no other reason than the circus freak aspect of it. You can play miniature golf any day, but the circus comes to town only so often.
By the same token, this is not to say that guys who are packing don’t like it, either. Big dicked guys are just as fascinated by other big dicks as smaller guys. In fact, you get a bunch of well-endowed guys together and it becomes sort of like a brotherhood. They give a sort of unspoken respect to each other. Well, except for one guy. It’s a little known fact, but in a given group of men with plus-sized organs, if you’re the biggest, the second biggest guy will undoubtedly hate you. Because if it weren’t for you, he’d be swinging the biggest stick.
That is a truth about hung guys. Not matter how big we are, we would not mind it being bigger. This is not to say that we’re not happy with what we got. I, for one, am plenty happy. But I’m not fooling myself, either. If a genie appeared and offered to make it bigger, I’m no more likely to say no to that than Lindsey Lohan would to a gram of coke (allegedly). And admit it, neither would you.
Any man, large or small, who says he doesn’t want a bigger cock is a liar.
The worst are the guys who sport big ol’ peckers and “complain” and wish they were smaller. “My cock is so big. No one can take me. Woe, is me!” If this is truly a problem, why don’t we ever hear about guys going out and getting penis reduction surgery. (I’m not even sure there is such a thing , unless you count losing a flap of skin as a baby). A doctor who performs that particular procedure could find more work as the Maytag repairman.
Men like big. Whatever we like we want it bigger. Big cars, big steaks, big TV’s. We like our cocks, so we want them bigger too.
So do you.
Sexy or not.
August 7th, 2007 at 1:04 am
I’m sorry, but I don’t agree. What about those girly boys, that name their asshole their “man-pussy” and indulge on being as feminine as possible? Some of them (I got a colleague like that), get off on being seen as totally girly bottoms, and want to be used in a similar way. Anything that makes them more masculine looking (a bigger penis would do that) is a no no. And still, they are not transsexual. They are just very very gay in a feminine way.
August 7th, 2007 at 1:28 am
True enough
Come on, guys like things to be big, bigger, biggest.
August 7th, 2007 at 3:50 am
Penis Monstrousis and Illusions of grandeur!
I think anyone dissatisfied with himself in that department has/have wished they were better endowed at one point or the other. Alas, this has never stopped anyone from going on in having a fulfilled sexual life. I do not think that mature “normal” men identify themselves purely through the size of their penis or are obsessive compulsive about it. After the “do” has been done did and the honey pot stung by the bee then the huge cock has its place packed away in the cocoon of darkness.
Before we begin, other questions need be answered. “How big is big?” Is it long and pencil thick? Is it a corkscrew curve around the corner kind? Is it big but lulls in the land of Morpheus (very frustrating)? Possessing or admiring a huge cock is only a starting point but it certainly does not stop there. There is a plethora of other criteria that arises - if at all - in the admiration of penis monstrousis.
I have had friends that had certainly problems with having a pm. “Is that all they want from me? Is that only my claim to fame?” They were quite self-conscious because of it. I cannot believe that it is entirely satisfying that the only claim to fame is having pm. I will admit, it is like wanting to be a millionaire; you think sometimes what it would be like but still, life goes on.
Time for a good quote! “Love that begins with beauty, dies when beauty dies” (substituting “beauty” with “penis monstrousis”).
August 7th, 2007 at 6:10 am
You are right… men are size queens in all categories… when it comes to the penis, I am not well endowed, but I know how to use what I have to the best of its ability (and must be pretty good with the amount of return visitors I have had over the years)… and my man likes it a WHOLE lot… fits him perfect… so I guess like anything else in life, you like to try the bigger and better things in life from time to time, but sometimes the normal stuff with a twist can be just as good, if not better… Happy Tuesday!
August 7th, 2007 at 9:17 am
Okay. But there is big and too big. For example, you are too big for me. It ain’t gonna fit. Or, I am too small for you. I would choose something more modestly sized. But I still like to look.
August 7th, 2007 at 9:24 am
Well to be honest. It really doesn’t matter to me. I have met guys that I was really attracted to physically and personality. They really excited me, that it didn’t matter what they had in their pants. Just being with them turned me on. Like with Andy, he excited me so much, he didn’t even have to touch me to get me worked up. I could have cared less what was between his legs.
But I will agree that if you have a choice and it was presented to you in plain sight~yes one would probably pick the bigger boys. Only way if we get to pick and choose is if we get to see it first. I will also admit, that I have used it to my advantage. Most generally I don’t show my cock to anyone online. Usually face and body shots and a butt shot. If I really want to reel them in, hook line and sinker. Once they get a look at the cock they are all REARing to go. I’d like to think they are interested before the cock comes into the picture.
August 7th, 2007 at 9:35 am
I don’t know, I guess it’s all subject to priorities. I mean, no matter how much grease you put on the door of a one car garage and no matter how hard you push, an 18 wheeler just isn’t going to fit. Sure, I like the feel of a well endowed membrum virilis, but ultimately I could care less. Now, the size of a really big brain or a huge heart? Completely different. Give me a man who doesn’t mind telling me what he thinks or showing me how he feels and THAT’S sexy – 100% of the time.
August 7th, 2007 at 9:51 am
Great food for thought. I guess I agree that it’s always fun to look, but having been with a guy that just wasn’t going to fit anywhere (I guess given time and preparation he could have but we were young), I think there is such a thing as “too large.”
I want to believe that I am deep enough that I would go for the total package–brains, brawn and dick; in that order. Reading your essay many of the statements do ring true so now I have to take a moment to examine myself once again. I know I would like my dick to be bigger but not necessarily so for my partner. However, given the choice between the partner with the little disck or the partner with the big dick… I’m superficial, totally.
August 7th, 2007 at 11:21 am
On the size issue, I have to disagree. I have been with huge guys and small ones. As a matter of fact, my partner when I lived in Knoxville was the smallest I have ever encountered. However, he was by far the best lover I have ever had. The guy with the biggest, was the worst.
On the sexy issue, I dare say that you are sexy in spite of your dick. Not because of it. You would still be sexy with a six-incher.
August 7th, 2007 at 11:34 am
Well, there is the inverted micro penis and the penis that is so wide that it looks like the tip of an elephant trunk. Too small and too big. Still, someone might find sexy in either man.
August 7th, 2007 at 2:11 pm
It’s kind of a coin flip sometimes. On the one hand, a very large dick is certainly exciting for me. On the other, the thought will occur - especially with very VERY large ones - “if I was in a relationship, would he be expecting plow me with that every night? Cause I got serious concerns about the limits of my abilities.”
So, putting it in terms like “the circus comes to town” kinda hits it on the head for the XXL cases. However, yes, I like size.
BUT… I agree with Gregg. If a guy doesn’t know what he’s doing, size will just let him get away with being lazy a little more than an average dicked guy.
There IS an art to a great fuck which doesn’t completely depend on size. I’ve been on both the receiving and (I’d like to think) giving end of that art. For long term sexual satisfaction, I would take a guy with an average dick and great technique over someone big and uninspired. Big and an artist would, of course, work as well. Heck, I might never get out of bed with that…
August 7th, 2007 at 3:20 pm
I completely agree! Deep down inside every man wants a bigger dick.
From experiance I see that men with big or huge dicks tend to have an air of confidence that men with smaller dicks don’t.
I even sence this from you Tony, even though we have never met. I sence if just from the way you write, and express yourself.
August 7th, 2007 at 5:13 pm
Don’t have to worry about anything over 6 inches around these parts. The only guys I have ever seen with more than that were all bottoms. Thank God for LT !
August 7th, 2007 at 5:23 pm
I agree with everything you’ve said. I’d love a bigger one even though it’s fairly respectable but hardly intimidating, yet I have one question…
Why is there no picture to accompany this post?
August 7th, 2007 at 5:44 pm
I respectfully disagree. Bigger CAN be better - but it isn’t always. I’m sure this does not apply to the author, but I’ve encountered a few well hung gentlemen who thought because they had a dangling capital Y chromosone they were good in bed….or wherever the deed was done. They weren’t. Some are. But like some smaller endowed men - it all varies.
But sexy isn’t in the rod size. It is in how they carry themselves.
August 7th, 2007 at 7:05 pm
This speaks to my theory that men are above all,very visual creatures. The thought of lounging in bed on a Sunday morning and gazing over at a substantial endowment, can be as comforting as the New York Times. As far as sexual logistics go, I’d like to think that with care and concern, anything is possible. I need to find out where Nick lives though ’cause I think I could really get into a big dicked bottom!
August 7th, 2007 at 9:41 pm
Size isn’t the whole issue when it come to dick.Yes I would love to have a little more myself,but I prefer my lover to have the bigger one provided it can stay hard.Nothing is more frustrating than a huge but flaccid cock, even though I am a top. I love to feel my chest against his back and my hands on his rigid cock.I am only 6 and ramrod straight, most are very happy with the size which won’t cripple them and seems to do the job. Dare I say you fit the bill? I agree with Brian.LOL
August 12th, 2007 at 7:49 pm
Cock size and sexy - it’s all very subjective isn’t? But it does make one think about why we choose the people we do.
August 13th, 2007 at 2:02 pm
amen.
August 14th, 2007 at 1:50 am
Neat.
August 14th, 2007 at 5:29 pm
As you’ve said, even straight guys are fixated on a big cock if they have a chance to see one.
Eggplant parm left over from last nights cooking that got cooked too late to eat. (white eggplant no less).
August 25th, 2007 at 4:47 am
Yeah…. guilty.. I love a big cock
Oh by the way, as you’ll notice my domain name has changed a bit… http://www.hbjock.org Hope to see ya there someday 