Comments on: Is That A Unicorn or Are You Just Happy To See Me? http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/ The Ramblings and 'Ritings of a Big-Dicked Country Boy Thu, 21 Aug 2008 22:12:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: GaryIdaho http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47512 GaryIdaho Thu, 08 Feb 2007 18:33:25 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47512 You to guys just met and your worried about going out. huh, Give it up. You to guys just met and your worried about going out. huh, Give it up.

]]> By: Jay http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47498 Jay Thu, 08 Feb 2007 13:59:14 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47498 I like Sue but I hate that she comments before I do when we have the same thoughts! :-D Yes, I think you should have tried to go to the ballet if you're interested in him. Maybe you could have said, "It's not really my thing, but I'll go with you just to check it out." Have you ever seen a ballet? I was okay seeing the Nutcracker and liked it....up until the last 30 minutes. All in all, I'm glad that I went and had the experience to broaden my horizons beyond what I knew and am familiar with. I would want you to do the same. Yes, I would go back to see another one, but it wouldn't be a regular thing. See, if you do this, then you can include him on some things that you enjoy that he might not get into but is willing to do it because it interests you and he gets to spend time with you doing it and vice versa. Y'all need to sit in the back, though. :-) I like Sue but I hate that she comments before I do when we have the same thoughts! :-D

Yes, I think you should have tried to go to the ballet if you’re interested in him. Maybe you could have said, “It’s not really my thing, but I’ll go with you just to check it out.” Have you ever seen a ballet? I was okay seeing the Nutcracker and liked it….up until the last 30 minutes. All in all, I’m glad that I went and had the experience to broaden my horizons beyond what I knew and am familiar with. I would want you to do the same. Yes, I would go back to see another one, but it wouldn’t be a regular thing.

See, if you do this, then you can include him on some things that you enjoy that he might not get into but is willing to do it because it interests you and he gets to spend time with you doing it and vice versa.

Y’all need to sit in the back, though. :-)

]]> By: BewilderedofLondon http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47497 BewilderedofLondon Thu, 08 Feb 2007 13:25:46 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47497 ..just don't sit in front of me OK? ..just don’t sit in front of me OK?

]]> By: BewilderedofLondon http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47489 BewilderedofLondon Thu, 08 Feb 2007 12:23:53 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47489 To answer the question; YOU GRIT YOUR BLOODY TEETH. You did what? Come on Tony, you're an intelligent man, make an effort. You don't know you don't like ballet and even if you don't at least it would be an informed opinion and not wilful chippy ignorance. That's not you! Surely? It might even show that you could fit into someone's greater life as they might into yours. "Take me as you find me/I speak as I find" is fine if you're five years old - relationships require a little more sophistication. Don't worry about how thing may LOOK, think about how they ARE. Let's have a little less "honesty' (for which read 'selfishness') please and a little more kindness, consideration, manners and basic social skills. What were you thinking of? It's only dancing, the orchestra sounds great and it's over in a couple of hours! He's not taking your eternal soul - IT'S JUST A DATE. As for your friend; crabs in a bucket? They never escape because their pals keep clawing 'em back in. Imgine, it might lead to more of this type of thing and before you know it you might actually be enjoying life! This must, by all means necessary, be stopped. None of this sounds like you. I'm amazed. There! I judged you! How dare I? Outrageous! I WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY. STOP THIS NONSENSE; GO TO THE BLOODY BALLET. To answer the question; YOU GRIT YOUR BLOODY TEETH.
You did what?
Come on Tony, you’re an intelligent man, make an effort.
You don’t know you don’t like ballet and even if you don’t at least it would be an informed opinion and not wilful chippy ignorance. That’s not you! Surely?
It might even show that you could fit into someone’s greater life as they might into yours.
“Take me as you find me/I speak as I find” is fine if you’re five years old - relationships require a little more sophistication.
Don’t worry about how thing may LOOK, think about how they ARE.
Let’s have a little less “honesty’ (for which read ’selfishness’) please and a little more kindness, consideration, manners and basic social skills. What were you thinking of? It’s only dancing, the orchestra sounds great and it’s over in a couple of hours! He’s not taking your eternal soul - IT’S JUST A DATE.
As for your friend; crabs in a bucket? They never escape because their pals keep clawing ‘em back in.
Imgine, it might lead to more of this type of thing and before you know it you might actually be enjoying life! This must, by all means necessary, be stopped.
None of this sounds like you. I’m amazed.
There! I judged you! How dare I? Outrageous!
I WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY. STOP THIS NONSENSE; GO TO THE BLOODY BALLET.

]]> By: Marcus http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47470 Marcus Thu, 08 Feb 2007 04:29:07 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47470 Tony, You were so right to express that the ballet is not something that you would like to attend. I, such as yourself would rather pluck my eyebrows out one by one while playing russian roulette with a machine gun than go to a ballet. The problem with most relationships today is that people put on fronts or are afraid to state what they don't like about the other person or what they don't like to do out of fear. Fear that the person won't like them or won't accept them for who they are. He should look at it like this, it's only one thing that you have said NO to. There are tons of other things, I hope, within you city or community that you can do. At least he is getting the truthful and honest you. Keep us posted. CIAO Marcus Tony,
You were so right to express that the ballet is not something that you would like to attend. I, such as yourself would rather pluck my eyebrows out one by one while playing russian roulette with a machine gun than go to a ballet. The problem with most relationships today is that people put on fronts or are afraid to state what they don’t like about the other person or what they don’t like to do out of fear. Fear that the person won’t like them or won’t accept them for who they are. He should look at it like this, it’s only one thing that you have said NO to. There are tons of other things, I hope, within you city or community that you can do. At least he is getting the truthful and honest you. Keep us posted. CIAO
Marcus

]]> By: Chris http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47468 Chris Thu, 08 Feb 2007 03:54:55 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47468 He was testing you to see if you would answer correctly. You know, "Yea man that sounds great, when we going? vers what you answered. Lawyers are like this and can't seem to get away from it. You don't sell yourself short by being honest Tony. If I understand the situation its the 3rd time you too have been hanging out. Also I know the kind of area you live in because I live in NC so nothing wrong with having a friend who is older and happens to have the same sexual orientation. So you said what you thought but if you change your mind and want to go you can ring him up and let him know, you know no big deal. Bet you would happily go with, well I am not going to mention his name, but I think you know who I am talking about:) Chris He was testing you to see if you would answer correctly. You know, “Yea man that sounds great, when we going? vers what you answered. Lawyers are like this and can’t seem to get away from it.
You don’t sell yourself short by being honest Tony. If I understand the situation its the 3rd time you too have been hanging out. Also I know the kind of area you live in because I live in NC so nothing wrong with having a friend who is older and happens to have the same sexual orientation.
So you said what you thought but if you change your mind and want to go you can ring him up and let him know, you know no big deal.
Bet you would happily go with, well I am not going to mention his name, but I think you know who I am talking about:)
Chris

]]> By: moby http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47465 moby Thu, 08 Feb 2007 03:39:49 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47465 I have a feeling he'll get over you now wanting to go to the Ballet with him. (For the record, I hate Ballet) If he doesn't, run as fast as you can! Knowing you somewhat, I'm pretty sure you were indeed nice about it. That said, I think you did the right thing as honesty is always the best policy. Maybe you could offer to do something else that you know he likes. I have a feeling he’ll get over you now wanting to go to the Ballet with him. (For the record, I hate Ballet) If he doesn’t, run as fast as you can!

Knowing you somewhat, I’m pretty sure you were indeed nice about it. That said, I think you did the right thing as honesty is always the best policy.

Maybe you could offer to do something else that you know he likes.

]]> By: David Arrow http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47464 David Arrow Thu, 08 Feb 2007 03:15:17 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47464 How do you know you don't like ballet if you have never been ? Also Ballet is not a generic term - there is all sorts. I think your correct approach would be to say -' I've never seen it, and I don't think I would like it, but it would be fun to be introduced to it by you. But don't be surprised if I hate it. Oh and by the way are the male dancers hot ? That way you are stating you postion, but communicating that you are interested in doing things with him - even when you are not sure that you will like the thing. Hey - discovery of new experiences is a great thing. My BF thought he would hate Opera until I took him - now he likes it more than I ever will. How do you know you don’t like ballet if you have never been ? Also Ballet is not a generic term - there is all sorts.

I think your correct approach would be to say -’ I’ve never seen it, and I don’t think I would like it, but it would be fun to be introduced to it by you. But don’t be surprised if I hate it. Oh and by the way are the male dancers hot ?

That way you are stating you postion, but communicating that you are interested in doing things with him - even when you are not sure that you will like the thing.

Hey - discovery of new experiences is a great thing. My BF thought he would hate Opera until I took him - now he likes it more than I ever will.

]]> By: Cooper http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47462 Cooper Thu, 08 Feb 2007 03:13:26 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47462 Some of these comments seem unnecessarily harsh and judgmental. When you spend time with or "date" someone who you know is highly unlikely to be interested in attending a ballet ... or a football game ... or an evening line-dancing (the activity isn't the point), then you should respect it if they kindly decline your offer. This is honest and it's respectful. In an aside, I learned something this evening. I didn't realise ballet could be so diverse. Thanks, Scott. Some of these comments seem unnecessarily harsh and judgmental. When you spend time with or “date” someone who you know is highly unlikely to be interested in attending a ballet … or a football game … or an evening line-dancing (the activity isn’t the point), then you should respect it if they kindly decline your offer. This is honest and it’s respectful.

In an aside, I learned something this evening. I didn’t realise ballet could be so diverse. Thanks, Scott.

]]> By: TllBlndGy http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47454 TllBlndGy Wed, 07 Feb 2007 23:48:06 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2007/02/07/is-that-a-unicorn-or-are-you-just-happy-to-see-me/#comment-47454 In other words, a successful man whom you seem to like excitedly asked you to spend MORE time with you and you selfishly pissed in his Cheerios because you THINK you MIGHT have a unicorn up your ass. I hope there's still time for mockingbird CPR. In other words, a successful man whom you seem to like excitedly asked you to spend MORE time with you and you selfishly pissed in his Cheerios because you THINK you MIGHT have a unicorn up your ass. I hope there’s still time for mockingbird CPR.

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