Comments on: Bother of The Bride http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/ The Ramblings and 'Ritings of a Big-Dicked Country Boy Thu, 21 Aug 2008 22:45:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: HB Jock http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3938 HB Jock Thu, 29 Jun 2006 23:08:32 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3938 Oh here we go again.. the women are freaking out again 'cause of the gays. I thought women were supposed to adore all us gays? Heheh. I think she's just VERY insecure at the moment.. hopefully she'll settle down after they get married and she's SURE that he's straight. But who knows, some women are beyond insane. And unfortunately, I agree with Moby... if she doesn't lighten up and relax, this whole situation is going to end up in an even bigger fight, in which case it may be an ultimatum of his friendship with you, or his marriage to her... It just cracks me up that she asked him why IF you were just friends, why he didn't have MORE gay friends... LOL! I mean, come on... what straight guy, especially one in redneck country, actually SEARCHES OUT gay guys for friends? That would be way too weird. I mean, even my brother-in-law doesn't have gay friends, although he has me as a brother-in-law... I just hope that she comes back to reality. :/ Oh here we go again.. the women are freaking out again ’cause of the gays. I thought women were supposed to adore all us gays? Heheh. I think she’s just VERY insecure at the moment.. hopefully she’ll settle down after they get married and she’s SURE that he’s straight. But who knows, some women are beyond insane. And unfortunately, I agree with Moby… if she doesn’t lighten up and relax, this whole situation is going to end up in an even bigger fight, in which case it may be an ultimatum of his friendship with you, or his marriage to her…

It just cracks me up that she asked him why IF you were just friends, why he didn’t have MORE gay friends… LOL! I mean, come on… what straight guy, especially one in redneck country, actually SEARCHES OUT gay guys for friends? That would be way too weird. I mean, even my brother-in-law doesn’t have gay friends, although he has me as a brother-in-law… I just hope that she comes back to reality. :/

]]> By: imphaldiary http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3925 imphaldiary Thu, 29 Jun 2006 04:28:22 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3925 While I know how you must be feeling and you have every right to crush her, I also think she has a point there. J should have told about you earlier. And I think only you can convince her about the scanctity of your friendship with J (don't ask me how, because I don't know) While I know how you must be feeling and you have every right to crush her, I also think she has a point there. J should have told about you earlier. And I think only you can convince her about the scanctity of your friendship with J (don’t ask me how, because I don’t know)

]]> By: Paul http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3924 Paul Thu, 29 Jun 2006 04:06:46 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3924 BFF ... best friends forever ... I'm still friends with my best friend from the first grade, even though he's gone through three wives. Real friends out-last wives. BFF … best friends forever … I’m still friends with my best friend from the first grade, even though he’s gone through three wives. Real friends out-last wives.

]]> By: moby http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3914 moby Wed, 28 Jun 2006 19:23:08 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3914 Rather than tell you what I think you wanna hear, I'll be honest. When I read your post alarm bells went off in my head. Having read some of the history you posted about her and J, I have the feeling she won't let this go. I think you are going to have a fight on your hands to keep J as your friend. Maybe a one sided fight because J sounds like a true friend but a fight nonetheless. That said, I HOPE it turns out to be wedding stress and she calms down once she realizes you aren't really a threat. Rather than tell you what I think you wanna hear, I’ll be honest. When I read your post alarm bells went off in my head. Having read some of the history you posted about her and J, I have the feeling she won’t let this go. I think you are going to have a fight on your hands to keep J as your friend. Maybe a one sided fight because J sounds like a true friend but a fight nonetheless.

That said, I HOPE it turns out to be wedding stress and she calms down once she realizes you aren’t really a threat.

]]> By: Jay http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3908 Jay Wed, 28 Jun 2006 15:33:30 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3908 Prada sucks. Now that I've gotten that out of the way.... My best friend's brother's girlfriend had the same reaction to finding out my best friend is gay - "Why didn't you tell me sooner?" and really got upset with him about it. Well, it's really none of your business, firstly, and secondly, it's a timing thing. Anyway, I second what Sue said. She's allowing her emotions to drive her right now and she will cool off after the wedding. You're taking her man away with a secret that you two share that she's not in on, but after she's joined as one with him and realizes what that means, she'll (hopefully) relent. Please don't be mean on their wedding day.... :-) I hope she doesn't let everyone down there know, though.... For what it's worth, I think being single gets old after a while, too.... ;-) Prada sucks. Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way….

My best friend’s brother’s girlfriend had the same reaction to finding out my best friend is gay - “Why didn’t you tell me sooner?” and really got upset with him about it. Well, it’s really none of your business, firstly, and secondly, it’s a timing thing.

Anyway, I second what Sue said. She’s allowing her emotions to drive her right now and she will cool off after the wedding. You’re taking her man away with a secret that you two share that she’s not in on, but after she’s joined as one with him and realizes what that means, she’ll (hopefully) relent.

Please don’t be mean on their wedding day…. :-) I hope she doesn’t let everyone down there know, though….

For what it’s worth, I think being single gets old after a while, too…. ;-)

]]> By: Jimmy http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3903 Jimmy Wed, 28 Jun 2006 05:59:22 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3903 In my experience, when finding out that a man they know is "of the homosexual persuasion" (like we really need any persuading!) the (straight)ladies fall into two major categories. #1: You're just "one of the girls". Most women I know and those I am friends with fall under this one. These are girls (women?) that you share beauty secrets with and talk about boys. If you spend the night you can rest assured it'll be like a slumber party. #2: They are convinced that you j"ust haven't found the right woman". These girls (women?) will try to "convert" you. They are just so sure that a roll in the hay with them will make you give up men forever. (HA! Fat chance sweetie!) Then there are gals like your best friend's fiancee. What a whackadoodle! There's nothing you can do about her attitude or opinion, Tont. Shell either have to deal with it, or not, as the case may be. Your best friend deserves snaps for an entirely different reason, though. I can count my straight male friends on one hand, because most straight men aren't secure enough in their own sexuality to deal with having a friend who is gay. Your buddy isn't like that, though, and that's very rare. In my experience, when finding out that a man they know is “of the homosexual persuasion” (like we really need any persuading!) the (straight)ladies fall into two major categories.

#1: You’re just “one of the girls”.
Most women I know and those I am friends with fall under this one. These are girls (women?) that you share beauty secrets with and talk about boys. If you spend the night you can rest assured it’ll be like a slumber party.

#2: They are convinced that you j”ust haven’t found the right woman”. These girls (women?) will try to “convert” you. They are just so sure that a roll in the hay with them will make you give up men forever.
(HA! Fat chance sweetie!)

Then there are gals like your best friend’s fiancee.
What a whackadoodle!
There’s nothing you can do about her attitude or opinion, Tont. Shell either have to deal with it, or not, as the case may be.

Your best friend deserves snaps for an entirely different reason, though.
I can count my straight male friends on one hand, because most straight men aren’t secure enough in their own sexuality to deal with having a friend who is gay.
Your buddy isn’t like that, though, and that’s very rare.

]]> By: Brian http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3900 Brian Wed, 28 Jun 2006 00:25:27 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3900 I have sung at more weddings than I can remember at this point, and 9 times out of 10, a secluded, padded room would be a good choice for one or both of the parties directly involved in the week leading up to the wedding. She's tense. She's saying to herself "There's no turning back after Saturday. How could I have forgotten to ask him if he'd made it with a guy before? Oh, Jesus, what if he IS gay -- all the REALLY good ones are, you know. And I'm marrying him, so he MUST be a really good one. Therefore..." I'm sure if this had come up under different circumstances, the result would have been MUCH more satisfactory all around. Have no fear, this too shall pass, once she gets to know you. How can she NOT love you? Hugs from Minnesota! I have sung at more weddings than I can remember at this point, and 9 times out of 10, a secluded, padded room would be a good choice for one or both of the parties directly involved in the week leading up to the wedding.

She’s tense. She’s saying to herself “There’s no turning back after Saturday. How could I have forgotten to ask him if he’d made it with a guy before? Oh, Jesus, what if he IS gay — all the REALLY good ones are, you know. And I’m marrying him, so he MUST be a really good one. Therefore…”

I’m sure if this had come up under different circumstances, the result would have been MUCH more satisfactory all around. Have no fear, this too shall pass, once she gets to know you. How can she NOT love you?

Hugs from Minnesota!

]]> By: michael o http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3898 michael o Tue, 27 Jun 2006 23:03:17 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3898 Let me know if you don't want to be single anymore, Tony ;-) Let me know if you don’t want to be single anymore, Tony ;-)

]]> By: Tony http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3897 Tony Tue, 27 Jun 2006 21:36:58 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3897 Oh Yah Tony....as a brother to four sisters, all married now, I can attest to the 'crazies' they turn into for the duration leading up to and sometimes through the wedding. Hopefully like my sisters, J's bride to be will laugh at herself when looking back. Should J sense that there is any forthright coming from his bride to be about your friendship then that is something J should explore NOW before finalzing any commitment, even if it means stalling the wedding. HOPEFULLY its purely the jitters. PS.. I laugh now because all my sisters say now given then boys to raise over girls anytime. Guess they get it dished back at themselves. HEHEHE! No offense to the ladies out there. Oh Yah Tony….as a brother to four sisters, all married now, I can attest to the ‘crazies’ they turn into for the duration leading up to and sometimes through the wedding. Hopefully like my sisters, J’s bride to be will laugh at herself when looking back. Should J sense that there is any forthright coming from his bride to be about your friendship then that is something J should explore NOW before finalzing any commitment, even if it means stalling the wedding. HOPEFULLY its purely the jitters.

PS.. I laugh now because all my sisters say now given then boys to raise over girls anytime. Guess they get it dished back at themselves. HEHEHE! No offense to the ladies out there.

]]> By: Patrick http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3896 Patrick Tue, 27 Jun 2006 21:31:36 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/06/27/bother-of-the-bride/#comment-3896 I guess her reaction could be attributed to a combination of her own wedding stress, and, yes, some of her own issues. You're wise to cut her some slack. When we're stressed, everything is intensified. She overreacted, BIG TIME. However, I understand where she's coming from, to an extent. It always hurts when the one we love keeps something from us, even though your sexuality really is none of her business. She's a little hurt, and she wants to hurt "J" back. This too, shall pass. It seems that weddings really separate the girls from the women. The girls turn into bridezillas and the women realize it's not ALL! ABOUT! THEM! Thank God my female friends are women. Also, I hate that people think that just because you're single that it is their duty to "hook you up" with someone. Who asked you? (end rant) On a separate note, enjoy your 31st B-day on Friday. I hope something cool happens for you. I guess her reaction could be attributed to a combination of her own wedding stress, and, yes, some of her own issues. You’re wise to cut her some slack. When we’re stressed, everything is intensified. She overreacted, BIG TIME. However, I understand where she’s coming from, to an extent. It always hurts when the one we love keeps something from us, even though your sexuality really is none of her business. She’s a little hurt, and she wants to hurt “J” back. This too, shall pass.

It seems that weddings really separate the girls from the women. The girls turn into bridezillas and the women realize it’s not ALL! ABOUT! THEM! Thank God my female friends are women.

Also, I hate that people think that just because you’re single that it is their duty to “hook you up” with someone. Who asked you? (end rant)

On a separate note, enjoy your 31st B-day on Friday. I hope something cool happens for you.

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