Comments on: Best Friend’s Best Man

By: chayne

chayne — Sun, 18 Jun 2006 18:32:03 +0000

One part of being a best man is giving the one last party for the groom. But I see it as recognition of what you have meant to him in the past. You are the one person he has singled out for that job, for that reason Tony, you are the best man.

By: Tony

Tony — Sat, 10 Jun 2006 22:21:46 +0000

LT,

Some have said it here already. First and foremost, be yourself. Right there next to it though, is ask your friend what he would envision. And don’t be shy abouut asking if he haws any desires to even have strippers involved. You’d be surprised at how many guys are caving in to avoid that situation because their fiancee doesn’t want that involved. I think the sensatvie and respectful ones follow their potential spouses wishes out of respect and love. So check on that first. He is really the one that you have to honor, not worry about what the guests might want.

Sporting events can always be fun, such as the baseball game thing, gold. I attended one where each of the attendeed brought a gag household gift, ie. ironing board, bucket and sponge, all the stuff guys hate to do and might have to expect in marriage. It weas good for a ton of funny commments and laughs. Bar or brewery hopping in a limo or limobus depending on the size, mixed with the spoof gift idea.

The key things again, be yourself, focus on him and not the guests, ask him what he would like. You’ll pull it off with flying colors.

The Other Tony

By: Larry

Larry — Sat, 10 Jun 2006 01:22:10 +0000

Oh Tony

This is one time where I simply can’t offer you any advice. Just being a wedding photographer once was enough to make me swear off ever attending one again. I figure when Jake and Meagan finally get hitched he’ll ask Barry, or another one of the friends he has down there.

What Moby said is great advice– if booze is involved it will smooth out any bumps along the way.

By: moby

moby — Fri, 09 Jun 2006 04:02:04 +0000

I agree you should get a feel for what your friend wants and honor his wishes..stoagies come to mind, muddin, a tractor pull, good seats to a big game, etc. If nudity is part of the equation, pick a bar that is mid range. Not the pricest but not the skank either. If booze is involed I’m sure whatever you do will be a hit.

You have a talent for writing so do what you do best.

By: Curtis

Curtis — Fri, 09 Jun 2006 01:10:46 +0000

How wonderful! I’m such a sucker for the romance of a wedding.

As for the party, you could just plan an event that centers on something that “J” likes to do – be it a game, putt-putt, some time around a camp fire swapping stories, or even a night out at the “titty bar”. It’s his big night so think about what he likes to do most and you’ll know what to plan.

As for the speech, well, I have every confidence in you. With your fabulous writing skills, it will be a snap. I’m certain that it will be heartfelt and beautiful.

A request, if it isn’t too invasive to you all’s privacy: I’m certain I’m not alone in wishing to view some of the wedding pictures and I would be most honored to read your toast to the bride and groom if you would be so willing to share. Indeed, we need a picture of Large Tony taking off the garter belt!! In any event, my regards to the bride to be, to “J”, and my best to the best man.

By: piersgavestonjr

piersgavestonjr — Fri, 09 Jun 2006 01:04:21 +0000

Are you sure she is not preggers? It is my experience that when the wedding takes place within a month of the announcement, there are going to be three people at the alter.

By: Sue

Sue — Thu, 08 Jun 2006 23:17:29 +0000

This is so exciting! Think what a great post it will make. Oh, you probably want to focus on making it work. You should hire a male stripper to really throw him off. After he reacts, and you play all innocent, then bring out the female one. I’m not sure you would be comfortable with this, since I don’t know who will be there, but it would be really funny. You could also put together an emabarassing power point presentation about his life and previous conquests and make raunchy claims about his wife-to-be. Anyway, that’s a start. Loosen up and have fun with it.

By: Todd

Todd — Thu, 08 Jun 2006 21:16:03 +0000

Tony-
You’ll do great. Paintball, Mini-Golf, Drunken-Go-Karts…lots to do. Speak from the heart…Rent Dracula; “Two lovers who have crossed oceans of time to find each other…” Good luck.

By: Jay

Jay — Thu, 08 Jun 2006 16:00:34 +0000

Okay, take a breath. There. Feel better?

Okay, don’t stress over this. It’s a big task and brand new to you, but nothing to stress over. For the party - ask him what he would like to do. I will say that strippers say that if you want clean fun, go to a bar. If it is a private party with strippers, that’s where things can get out of control for the groom (sex, etc.)

As for the toast, you don’t have to be perfect - just be heartfelt and just be you. You have a big enough heart to pull this off authentically so I don’t think that’ll be too much of a problem.

If you want help and a guide for doing so, check out the following:

http://www.ehow.com/how_3408_be-man.html
http://www.ehow.com/tips_3408.html
http://www.askmen.com/fashion/how_to_250/261_how_to.html
http://www.thebestman.com/

By: Doug

Doug — Thu, 08 Jun 2006 14:29:46 +0000

The possibilities are endless. Some of the recent bachelor parties here have included golf, skeet shooting, archery tournaments, fishing for the day, whatever the groom was into. Then dinner or a backyard barbeque somewhere and girls but a couple of times not at the grooms request. Don’t stress about it too much, if “J” is a good friend he’ll realize you did what you could and I’m sure it will be fine with him. I’m sure he picked you because you are the “Best Man”. HAVE FUN !