Comments on: Crash and Burn http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/ The Ramblings and 'Ritings of a Big-Dicked Country Boy Wed, 03 Dec 2008 20:59:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Erick van der Zanndt http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3213 Erick van der Zanndt Fri, 28 Apr 2006 21:26:57 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3213 Well, me personally, I think he was quite the arse and you are better off without him! How amazingly shallow! You sound like a great mate...ummm...guy and if ever our paths cross and we decide to meet at a restaurant...please know the following: I am European and am versed in wine and beer...so...don't worry, I can associate with you here and IF YOU ARE INTERESTED can share a bit of knowledge on wines with you! Secondly, while I am a lover of football (soccer), I can also appreciate and enjoy the American passtime sport...the uniforms are so much more revealing and you get PAID to make violent tackles....I love it! Thirdly, my English is good, but I still get caught on words and tend to be a bit quiet and reserved to begin with also. And finally, I am a bit modest and mostly do not care how people think I look...LOL...I can not help it......AND DO NOT pass judgement on likes, dislikes or looks! Again, such brazen, catty, gayness.........no, RUDENESS, deserves nothing better than your smile and your pity and back as you walk out of the restaurant! Cheers mate and keep your chin up! A big hug and a Heiniken salute! Erick Well, me personally, I think he was quite the arse and you are better off without him! How amazingly shallow! You sound like a great mate…ummm…guy and if ever our paths cross and we decide to meet at a restaurant…please know the following: I am European and am versed in wine and beer…so…don’t worry, I can associate with you here and IF YOU ARE INTERESTED can share a bit of knowledge on wines with you! Secondly, while I am a lover of football (soccer), I can also appreciate and enjoy the American passtime sport…the uniforms are so much more revealing and you get PAID to make violent tackles….I love it! Thirdly, my English is good, but I still get caught on words and tend to be a bit quiet and reserved to begin with also. And finally, I am a bit modest and mostly do not care how people think I look…LOL…I can not help it……AND DO NOT pass judgement on likes, dislikes or looks!

Again, such brazen, catty, gayness………no, RUDENESS, deserves nothing better than your smile and your pity and back as you walk out of the restaurant!

Cheers mate and keep your chin up!

A big hug and a Heiniken salute!

Erick

]]> By: Jay http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3196 Jay Thu, 27 Apr 2006 16:37:25 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3196 Aside from UT football sucking ass (got your attention yet? good! I'm joking, btw), I'm glad you went out there and got out of your zone and went for the blind date. I'm really happy for you that you're getting out there and not just talking about needing to do it. Good for you! Now, I'm sorry you had to deal with someone who has such a limited world view and belittles and judges others who don't fit into the view. It's sad to encounter people like that. I'm glad you chose to let go of him up front (unlike me, who had to learn the hard way). Atlanta is great for gays, but only in Atlanta. Once you get outside of Atlanta it's just like any other backwards-thinking part of the South. Also, don't shy away from dating. It's always best to start out on the friendship path anyway. That way you can see things you like/don't like in the person and determine if it's better to take it to the next level or not, so don't give up just yet. Aside from UT football sucking ass (got your attention yet? good! I’m joking, btw), I’m glad you went out there and got out of your zone and went for the blind date. I’m really happy for you that you’re getting out there and not just talking about needing to do it. Good for you!

Now, I’m sorry you had to deal with someone who has such a limited world view and belittles and judges others who don’t fit into the view. It’s sad to encounter people like that. I’m glad you chose to let go of him up front (unlike me, who had to learn the hard way). Atlanta is great for gays, but only in Atlanta. Once you get outside of Atlanta it’s just like any other backwards-thinking part of the South. Also, don’t shy away from dating. It’s always best to start out on the friendship path anyway. That way you can see things you like/don’t like in the person and determine if it’s better to take it to the next level or not, so don’t give up just yet.

]]> By: larabee http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3140 larabee Fri, 21 Apr 2006 20:11:27 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3140 Consider it a blessing. You now know that you don't care for conceited, self-centered, the world revolves around them types. Face it, dating is the only way you will find and/or eliminate the qualities you like and don't like. As they say, get right back on the horse before you loose your nerve. PS Atlanta isn't all that!!!!!!!!! Take my word for it. Consider it a blessing. You now know that you don’t care for conceited, self-centered, the world revolves around them types. Face it, dating is the only way you will find and/or eliminate the qualities you like and don’t like. As they say, get right back on the horse before you loose your nerve. PS Atlanta isn’t all that!!!!!!!!! Take my word for it.

]]> By: Scotty http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3138 Scotty Fri, 21 Apr 2006 12:28:37 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3138 SOrry things didn't go well. I must say i only went on 2 dates before I met my partner and he and i was a hook-up...NOT a date. It juest always felt weird dating a guy...who pays, who does what. I was never really comfy with dating guys. Strange I guess. I am glad I found the guy I have. Dont' give up though...I am sure someone as good looking as you with all you have to offer will make a guy a great boyfriend. SOrry things didn’t go well. I must say i only went on 2 dates before I met my partner and he and i was a hook-up…NOT a date. It juest always felt weird dating a guy…who pays, who does what. I was never really comfy with dating guys. Strange I guess. I am glad I found the guy I have.

Dont’ give up though…I am sure someone as good looking as you with all you have to offer will make a guy a great boyfriend.

]]> By: Devlin http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3132 Devlin Thu, 20 Apr 2006 23:54:21 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3132 I can never think of things to say, and I dont hear so well in bars... end result... people think Im stuck-up. But, that I know you will meet the guy that is right for you. I can never think of things to say, and I dont hear so well in bars… end result… people think Im stuck-up.

But, that I know you will meet the guy that is right for you.

]]> By: paul http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3102 paul Wed, 19 Apr 2006 21:20:13 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3102 My god, he sounds like one of my Exs!! This is the reason I NEVER go on blind dates. My god, he sounds like one of my Exs!!

This is the reason I NEVER go on blind dates.

]]> By: HBJock http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3094 HBJock Wed, 19 Apr 2006 07:03:44 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3094 OMG... you know, at first I was getting a tiny bit jealous that you were going on a blind date with someone who wasn't me (LOL), but I have to tell you, that you did nothing wrong on this date it seems. And even if you did agree to a second date, I'd definitely suggest against it... Not that I know this guy, but it seems like he seems to think that he's the "it" guy and that everyone is beneath him... and how dare he talk down about football! I love that shit! Hehehe... shhh don't tell anyone.. but this gay man is one of those guys who likes to yell his ass off at the games and cheers when the other team screws up heheh. And hey, don't worry about the wine thing.. although I like drinking wine, I don't know all that much about it either ;). Wanna get a beer sometime? :) OMG… you know, at first I was getting a tiny bit jealous that you were going on a blind date with someone who wasn’t me (LOL), but I have to tell you, that you did nothing wrong on this date it seems. And even if you did agree to a second date, I’d definitely suggest against it… Not that I know this guy, but it seems like he seems to think that he’s the “it” guy and that everyone is beneath him… and how dare he talk down about football! I love that shit! Hehehe… shhh don’t tell anyone.. but this gay man is one of those guys who likes to yell his ass off at the games and cheers when the other team screws up heheh.

And hey, don’t worry about the wine thing.. although I like drinking wine, I don’t know all that much about it either ;). Wanna get a beer sometime? :)

]]> By: Larry http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3092 Larry Tue, 18 Apr 2006 13:35:53 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3092 He's one guy. And I know that there is a perfect match for you out there. I actually think the football thing is kind of funny. I mean, he couldn't have possibly said anything worse! You're still catch. Remember that :) He’s one guy. And I know that there is a perfect match for you out there. I actually think the football thing is kind of funny. I mean, he couldn’t have possibly said anything worse!

You’re still catch. Remember that :)

]]> By: Patrick http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3091 Patrick Mon, 17 Apr 2006 21:14:40 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3091 First, congratulations on putting yourself out there and getting out of your comfort zone. Even though it turned out to be a dud, this was good for you. Sounds like he may have been pretty nervous, too. Each time it will hopefully get a little easier (maybe not the date itself, but at least the anxiety associated with it). Dating is so difficult. So frequently we say the wrong things because we're so concerned about what the other person thinks it becomes impossible to be ourselves. Or we say nothing at all. Who knows? "Brian" may be kicking himself for all the bone-headed comments he made. Or not. Better luck next time. First, congratulations on putting yourself out there and getting out of your comfort zone. Even though it turned out to be a dud, this was good for you.
Sounds like he may have been pretty nervous, too. Each time it will hopefully get a little easier (maybe not the date itself, but at least the anxiety associated with it). Dating is so difficult. So frequently we say the wrong things because we’re so concerned about what the other person thinks it becomes impossible to be ourselves. Or we say nothing at all. Who knows? “Brian” may be kicking himself for all the bone-headed comments he made. Or not. Better luck next time.

]]> By: BustersDad http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3090 BustersDad Mon, 17 Apr 2006 20:32:15 +0000 http://blog.largetony.com/2006/04/15/crash-and-burn/#comment-3090 Well, I am also sorry that the blind date did not go as well as you hoped. I agree with all the other comments about the shortfalls of "Brian". However, your description affirmed what I have found in all of your other posts -- you are a kind and considerate guy who was "raised right". You obviously know better than to ask questions that might make a new acquaintance/date/anyone feel uncomfortable. Sadly, you were set up with someone without those admirable qualities. I hope that the next time you go out the match will be significantly better. Well, I am also sorry that the blind date did not go as well as you hoped. I agree with all the other comments about the shortfalls of “Brian”. However, your description affirmed what I have found in all of your other posts — you are a kind and considerate guy who was “raised right”. You obviously know better than to ask questions that might make a new acquaintance/date/anyone feel uncomfortable. Sadly, you were set up with someone without those admirable qualities. I hope that the next time you go out the match will be significantly better.

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