Comments on: The Dolly Lummox http://blog.largetony.com/2005/11/28/the-dolly-lummox/ The Ramblings and 'Ritings of a Big-Dicked Country Boy Thu, 21 Aug 2008 22:37:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Another Tony http://blog.largetony.com/2005/11/28/the-dolly-lummox/#comment-2505 Another Tony Fri, 06 Jan 2006 22:03:42 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=166#comment-2505 Just the fact you got yourself out of the house and went to the bar alone - man, that's the hard part. How many people need to have friends around to do the very same thing (me included). Give yourself a little bit of a break. Just the fact you got yourself out of the house and went to the bar alone - man, that’s the hard part. How many people need to have friends around to do the very same thing (me included). Give yourself a little bit of a break.

]]> By: Dana http://blog.largetony.com/2005/11/28/the-dolly-lummox/#comment-2325 Dana Wed, 07 Dec 2005 05:41:03 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=166#comment-2325 It all sounds so familiar. Years ago I literally pushed one foot in front of the other to get myself into a bar by myself with dancing going on. The uninvited comments..."You don't look happy," "Why so sad?"...usually followed by the hasty pass or attempted mauling, when all I really wanted was to connect with someone on a friendly, fun level. But, then, this one guy in particular asked me to dance. When I replied I didn't really know how, he offered to teach me (without the body search). I enjoyed myself...and now we're best friends. It's awkward at first, for sure, Tony. Keep trying...the light comes shining through. Then, soon, your hands will be conducucting your own contentment...and if they find themslelves in your pockets, nobody will care...most of all, you. It all sounds so familiar. Years ago I literally pushed one foot in front of the other to get myself into a bar by myself with dancing going on. The uninvited comments…”You don’t look happy,” “Why so sad?”…usually followed by the hasty pass or attempted mauling, when all I really wanted was to connect with someone on a friendly, fun level. But, then, this one guy in particular asked me to dance. When I replied I didn’t really know how, he offered to teach me (without the body search). I enjoyed myself…and now we’re best friends. It’s awkward at first, for sure, Tony. Keep trying…the light comes shining through. Then, soon, your hands will be conducucting your own contentment…and if they find themslelves in your pockets, nobody will care…most of all, you.

]]> By: Jay http://blog.largetony.com/2005/11/28/the-dolly-lummox/#comment-2295 Jay Mon, 05 Dec 2005 04:07:18 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=166#comment-2295 TONY DANCING!!!! YAY!!!! I love dancing. Glad you're taking steps to come out of your shell and that it worked out well for you this time around. Keep on. I'm happy for you! TONY DANCING!!!! YAY!!!! I love dancing. Glad you’re taking steps to come out of your shell and that it worked out well for you this time around. Keep on. I’m happy for you!

]]> By: yaniboi http://blog.largetony.com/2005/11/28/the-dolly-lummox/#comment-2288 yaniboi Sat, 03 Dec 2005 01:15:42 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=166#comment-2288 Just when it seems you actually can't get any sweeter... SUGAR RUSH! You really only need to remember one thing... "Dance like nobody's watching!" Just when it seems you actually can’t get any sweeter… SUGAR RUSH!

You really only need to remember one thing… “Dance like nobody’s watching!”

]]> By: Len http://blog.largetony.com/2005/11/28/the-dolly-lummox/#comment-2279 Len Thu, 01 Dec 2005 19:57:20 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=166#comment-2279 Back when I was still married and trying to get up the nerve to 'come out', I used to go into a gay bar here in town (not much to choose from here in Lansing Michigan) and I could sit at the bar for 2 or 3 beers and never once talk to a soul. That also means that the guys wouldn't talk to me either...but every now and then a hot little number would join me and try to stike up a conversation. Even when it didn't go any further than sharing a beer and time at a bar, it was great just being around someone who was on the same side of the sexual tracks...so I empathize with your story (told once again with heart and humor). And, I hope you do the same thing again, real soon. You should go to the Christmas party...if for no other reason than to be amongst other guys of the same persuasion...enjoy yourself!! Back when I was still married and trying to get up the nerve to ‘come out’, I used to go into a gay bar here in town (not much to choose from here in Lansing Michigan) and I could sit at the bar for 2 or 3 beers and never once talk to a soul. That also means that the guys wouldn’t talk to me either…but every now and then a hot little number would join me and try to stike up a conversation. Even when it didn’t go any further than sharing a beer and time at a bar, it was great just being around someone who was on the same side of the sexual tracks…so I empathize with your story (told once again with heart and humor). And, I hope you do the same thing again, real soon. You should go to the Christmas party…if for no other reason than to be amongst other guys of the same persuasion…enjoy yourself!!

]]> By: pette http://blog.largetony.com/2005/11/28/the-dolly-lummox/#comment-2276 pette Wed, 30 Nov 2005 20:29:03 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=166#comment-2276 imjust like u aloner but when i go to the club or bar i feel like i belong somewhere not that i have alot of gay friends the atmosphere there takes afew loads of insecurity .u donot have to be a great dancer to feel it . when it comes to dancing i think i will advise u to dance after a few drinks thatway u feel great and stop sitting at the bar makes u look like what they think u r .this is what i usually do i never satnd at the bar and when it comes to dancing im a good dancer but most of the time there is crapy music so u just dance how u feel comfortable annd the dance floor is when i do my flirting with all those sex dances for me it does wonders boasts me to feel good abot my self [i know im shallow] imjust like u aloner but when i go to the club or bar i feel like i belong somewhere not that i have alot of gay friends the atmosphere there takes afew loads of insecurity .u donot have to be a great dancer to feel it .
when it comes to dancing i think i will advise u to dance after a few drinks thatway u feel great and stop sitting at the bar makes u look like what they think u r .this is what i usually do i never satnd at the bar and when it comes to dancing im a good dancer but most of the time there is crapy music so u just dance how u feel comfortable annd the dance floor is when i do my flirting with all those sex dances for me it does wonders boasts me to feel good abot my self [i know im shallow]

]]> By: Mr. Brian http://blog.largetony.com/2005/11/28/the-dolly-lummox/#comment-2272 Mr. Brian Tue, 29 Nov 2005 23:37:15 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=166#comment-2272 Dancing is a great way to relax. Glad you were able to relax and have a good time. The next time is always easier, unless it's been a while. Dancing is a great way to relax. Glad you were able to relax and have a good time. The next time is always easier, unless it’s been a while.

]]> By: peter http://blog.largetony.com/2005/11/28/the-dolly-lummox/#comment-2271 peter Tue, 29 Nov 2005 23:32:08 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=166#comment-2271 Time to step out of the closets Tony. One, admit that it is ok to be gay. Two, youre just like everybody else dude, except you live at home, still. Build a bridge and get over your neurosis. You don't even live in nyc!! Hugs x Time to step out of the closets Tony. One, admit that it is ok to be gay. Two, youre just like everybody else dude, except you live at home, still. Build a bridge and get over your neurosis. You don’t even live in nyc!!
Hugs x

]]> By: paxed http://blog.largetony.com/2005/11/28/the-dolly-lummox/#comment-2270 paxed Tue, 29 Nov 2005 17:02:21 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=166#comment-2270 Getting there is the biggest hurdle. Once you're there, you'll most likely have fun. Or at least that's how it always is for me going to parties... Getting there is the biggest hurdle. Once you’re there, you’ll most likely have fun.

Or at least that’s how it always is for me going to parties…

]]> By: Michael http://blog.largetony.com/2005/11/28/the-dolly-lummox/#comment-2269 Michael Tue, 29 Nov 2005 13:17:02 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=166#comment-2269 I can't dance and I can't sing but I sing in the shower and in my car and I dance after a few drinks when the dance floor is crowded and ya know- fuck 'em.... it is fun even if I look like I am having a seizure. Sometimes, lessons like coloring outside of your box- even for a moment, is worth every thump thump. I can’t dance and I can’t sing but I sing in the shower and in my car and I dance after a few drinks when the dance floor is crowded and ya know- fuck ‘em…. it is fun even if I look like I am having a seizure.
Sometimes, lessons like coloring outside of your box- even for a moment, is worth every thump thump.

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