Comments on: Wimmin http://blog.largetony.com/2005/09/23/wimmin/ The Ramblings and 'Ritings of a Big-Dicked Country Boy Wed, 03 Dec 2008 22:09:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: littemoney http://blog.largetony.com/2005/09/23/wimmin/#comment-52367 littemoney Sat, 31 Mar 2007 09:48:10 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=158#comment-52367 keep up your good work!! i love visiting your site! keep up your good work!! i love visiting your site!

]]> By: Guy http://blog.largetony.com/2005/09/23/wimmin/#comment-1895 Guy Tue, 27 Sep 2005 04:40:42 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=158#comment-1895 As always, love your writing style, Tony. Interesting topic. I've always had women friends, but those friendships just happen. Most have been someone from work -- lots of women working in offices -- and others have been friends of friends, or someone I just happened to meet. Like some of the other responders have said, you might be more comfortable buddying up with a gay girl. Or.. any of your buddies got sisters/cousins that you get along with? As always, love your writing style, Tony. Interesting topic. I’ve always had women friends, but those friendships just happen. Most have been someone from work — lots of women working in offices — and others have been friends of friends, or someone I just happened to meet. Like some of the other responders have said, you might be more comfortable buddying up with a gay girl. Or.. any of your buddies got sisters/cousins that you get along with?

]]> By: Nicholas Ajax Stamos http://blog.largetony.com/2005/09/23/wimmin/#comment-1862 Nicholas Ajax Stamos Mon, 26 Sep 2005 07:42:34 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=158#comment-1862 Of course, there's always the theory that people are people. ;) No, wait - That's people who need people, are the luckiest people in the world. You strike me as a lucky guy Tony. Of course, there’s always the theory that people are people. ;)

No, wait -
That’s people who need people, are the luckiest people in the world. You strike me as a lucky guy Tony.

]]> By: Sue http://blog.largetony.com/2005/09/23/wimmin/#comment-1815 Sue Sun, 25 Sep 2005 12:52:17 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=158#comment-1815 To Dave - FYI: my husband somewhat prefers I hang out with gay males because HE knows that they are no threat to our relationship. Though so many seem to come-on to him that I wonder if I should worry. ;) Also, I like to hear about my friends' love lives whether they are straight or gay. To Dave - FYI: my husband somewhat prefers I hang out with gay males because HE knows that they are no threat to our relationship. Though so many seem to come-on to him that I wonder if I should worry. ;) Also, I like to hear about my friends’ love lives whether they are straight or gay.

]]> By: Sue http://blog.largetony.com/2005/09/23/wimmin/#comment-1789 Sue Sat, 24 Sep 2005 23:42:38 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=158#comment-1789 In my experience, women go to the gym to get fit and/or MEET GUYS (read: they are "cruising" female style). You could offer to spot for one and then talk about their work out goals. You could make a friend that way, besides many women know and accept that gay guys work out (hope its like that where you live). But I urge caution, some are looking for someone to marry (after which they stop working out of course). It is also less problematic looking for a str8 girl at work if she is already happily married and/or emotionally mature. I think it is noble that Tony wants to have str8 friends, as in the long run it will help to overcome homophobia in our society. Kudos Tony! In my experience, women go to the gym to get fit and/or MEET GUYS (read: they are “cruising” female style). You could offer to spot for one and then talk about their work out goals. You could make a friend that way, besides many women know and accept that gay guys work out (hope its like that where you live). But I urge caution, some are looking for someone to marry (after which they stop working out of course).

It is also less problematic looking for a str8 girl at work if she is already happily married and/or emotionally mature.

I think it is noble that Tony wants to have str8 friends, as in the long run it will help to overcome homophobia in our society. Kudos Tony!

]]> By: Tofer http://blog.largetony.com/2005/09/23/wimmin/#comment-1788 Tofer Sat, 24 Sep 2005 21:24:10 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=158#comment-1788 Personally, I think str8 girls are too much trouble...Find you a nice lesbian couple. They are fun, they don't mind just sitting around drinking beer and watching football all weekend. I'd loan you mine but they are on the way over to re-screen my front porch. Personally, I think str8 girls are too much trouble…Find you a nice lesbian couple. They are fun, they don’t mind just sitting around drinking beer and watching football all weekend. I’d loan you mine but they are on the way over to re-screen my front porch.

]]> By: Melissa http://blog.largetony.com/2005/09/23/wimmin/#comment-1787 Melissa Sat, 24 Sep 2005 19:59:00 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=158#comment-1787 Women are really no different than men when it comes to conversation. Men like it, and women like it. Personally, I like it to be funny and witty. And I think you are both. You wanna know what goes on in ladies restrooms when we all go together? It depends on the situation. If we are shopping, then we need our friends to hold the stall door shut in case there is no lock. Or we need them to cough up a quarter and buy us a feminine product when we get trapped in the stall with a surprise female problem. If we are at a party, or at dinner then we are just looking for some company. That's it. That's not to say that women are not complicated creatures. We sure as hell are. I'll admit, we change the rules without warning, we do things without thinking sometimes, and we can be tempermental without cause. But, here's the thing, women are also wonderous creatures. I'm no lesbian, nor have I had any bi tendencies, but I notice how wonderful perfumes smell. Or how beautiful a woman is. A down to earth woman is the type you should be friends with. You don't need a diva. Just a fun girl with an infectious laugh. Women are really no different than men when it comes to conversation. Men like it, and women like it. Personally, I like it to be funny and witty. And I think you are both.
You wanna know what goes on in ladies restrooms when we all go together? It depends on the situation. If we are shopping, then we need our friends to hold the stall door shut in case there is no lock. Or we need them to cough up a quarter and buy us a feminine product when we get trapped in the stall with a surprise female problem. If we are at a party, or at dinner then we are just looking for some company. That’s it. That’s not to say that women are not complicated creatures. We sure as hell are. I’ll admit, we change the rules without warning, we do things without thinking sometimes, and we can be tempermental without cause. But, here’s the thing, women are also wonderous creatures. I’m no lesbian, nor have I had any bi tendencies, but I notice how wonderful perfumes smell. Or how beautiful a woman is.
A down to earth woman is the type you should be friends with. You don’t need a diva. Just a fun girl with an infectious laugh.

]]> By: Sue http://blog.largetony.com/2005/09/23/wimmin/#comment-1786 Sue Sat, 24 Sep 2005 19:20:23 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=158#comment-1786 I am shy like you are. I have met all of my friends at work. Some of them (both male and female) have turned out to be gay. Two things come to mind to get the message out that you are not interested in dating a woman from work: "I never mix work with pleasure" or "Sorry, but you're not my type, but I'd like to hang anyway". Her feelings might be hurt, but that's a risk you have to take. She might pine a bit, but eventually she'll figure it out. I don't think I'd go for the one who wants to get into your pants. :) The first line also works if she wants to set you up with a relative or friend. I am shy like you are. I have met all of my friends at work. Some of them (both male and female) have turned out to be gay. Two things come to mind to get the message out that you are not interested in dating a woman from work: “I never mix work with pleasure” or “Sorry, but you’re not my type, but I’d like to hang anyway”. Her feelings might be hurt, but that’s a risk you have to take. She might pine a bit, but eventually she’ll figure it out. I don’t think I’d go for the one who wants to get into your pants. :) The first line also works if she wants to set you up with a relative or friend.

]]> By: thedeliveryguy http://blog.largetony.com/2005/09/23/wimmin/#comment-1785 thedeliveryguy Sat, 24 Sep 2005 16:16:34 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=158#comment-1785 I'm definitely as gay as you (although if you wanna have a competition, let me know) and I don't have many female friends either. I had them in high school and college, but when I went to work in a mostly male environment and attending a mostly male gym, and they started getting married and raising infants, we grew apart. When I started to wonder about that, I just realized that when I start taking an interest in the things women do, and going places women go, I'll start having women friends again. Except for that rare person with whom you make a profound, lifelong connection, friends are people with whom you have things in common. There's nothing wrong with that. The best thing about you is that you bust traditional gay stereotypes. I think you're much more likely to make female friends (albeit very slowly) doing the things you enjoy rather than seeking them out. I’m definitely as gay as you (although if you wanna have a competition, let me know) and I don’t have many female friends either. I had them in high school and college, but when I went to work in a mostly male environment and attending a mostly male gym, and they started getting married and raising infants, we grew apart.

When I started to wonder about that, I just realized that when I start taking an interest in the things women do, and going places women go, I’ll start having women friends again. Except for that rare person with whom you make a profound, lifelong connection, friends are people with whom you have things in common. There’s nothing wrong with that.

The best thing about you is that you bust traditional gay stereotypes. I think you’re much more likely to make female friends (albeit very slowly) doing the things you enjoy rather than seeking them out.

]]> By: Jay http://blog.largetony.com/2005/09/23/wimmin/#comment-1779 Jay Sat, 24 Sep 2005 03:19:18 +0000 http://largetony.com/tonyblog/?p=158#comment-1779 See, back East things are a bit different in that you could actually be friends with a girl (and most gay guys I know have at least one girl they're "tight" with - did I say "tight?" It's 1996, y'all! :) ) and it's no big deal (mostly). I don't know what to tell you in the mountains of Tennessee. Sooner or later they'll start wondering about you if you're not nailing your female friend (and women talk, so pretty soon all will undoubtedly know that you're not hitting that) and put two and two together and so on and so forth. You can play it by ear and be a friend and not worry about society if you want. That's always an option and probably a better one to boot. See, back East things are a bit different in that you could actually be friends with a girl (and most gay guys I know have at least one girl they’re “tight” with - did I say “tight?” It’s 1996, y’all! :) ) and it’s no big deal (mostly). I don’t know what to tell you in the mountains of Tennessee. Sooner or later they’ll start wondering about you if you’re not nailing your female friend (and women talk, so pretty soon all will undoubtedly know that you’re not hitting that) and put two and two together and so on and so forth. You can play it by ear and be a friend and not worry about society if you want. That’s always an option and probably a better one to boot.

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